Dear Mama J.
I work in the medical field as an activity director. I have a few questions. First let me say I love my job. It seems like if you have a problem you go to your boss. It’s always like she doesn’t have time for this, When is a good time. I’ll leave her office feeling defeated like my opinion doesn’t matter. I just hold everything in. She’s a very busy woman but you should always have time to talk to your employees and listen even if they don’t want to. A few times I went over her head and I got in trouble because I didn’t go talk to her first. She won’t listen. When a policy changed only a few people were told. We all work together. Why weren’t we all informed? We have different positions but overall we work to focus on the same thing. Another thing, when the boss gets stressed out over her life at home she comes to work and takes it out on her co-workers. She doesn’t realize it. Please help me. I’m damned if I do and I’m damned if I don’t. I’ve been with this establishment for about 4-5 years. You get the younger generation which some of them are excellent workers but when the boss is away they make up their own rules. When I say something to him I’m being bossy to him which I’m not but that’s how they take it. There’s no teamwork . Grow up and help people out. It’s like I’m afraid to say anything to anybody cuz Lord knows how they’re going to take it and I don’t like it.
Dear Walking on Eggshells,
Workplace dynamics. It can be so hard. It seems medical facilities can be short staffed and turnovers. I agree, the manager should have time for employees to talk to her. I am going to post some solutions and let’s see if any of them might work.
- Writing a note with the issue you want to discuss be given to her first?
- Could she set aside some times she would be available for a meeting?
- Could policy changes be printed out and given to employees so everyone is on board?
- A monthly team meeting?
- Is it written down who is in charge when the boss is away so that it is clear to everyone?
Walking on eggshells due to the manager bringing her homelife into work is so hard. Never knowing what a mood might be uncomfortable. I feel like that is a situation that one has to deal with on their own. Going to someone else backfired. If this is a job that you want to stay with, a new attitude of how to handle it is something to do. You can change how you react because the passive/aggressive person isn’t going to change.
Please keep us posted if anything improves. I hope this helps and that your workplace will be peaceful for you.
Love Mama J
